前幾天開始整理一些簡訊；
因為暑假才換的手機，所以以前的簡訊都還沒刪。

看著自己寫給某些人的簡訊，
發覺我跟真子(from 我無法戀愛的理由)一樣 。

天阿，超級沉重的。

現在完全可以理解當初怎麼會被拒絕成這樣；
我試圖要搞曖昧的字句真的挺嚇人的。

我自己本身就很怕這樣的人，
沒想到自己也是這樣給人家造成困擾的傢伙。
果然人有時候也是要退後一步才看得清楚，
很多事情都是有理由的。

後來剛剛又整理MSN好久以前的聊天記錄，
又看到了在高中時期跟有點小曖昧的男生的對話。
這才發現我自己當初有夠無知且花痴的= =難怪被耍得團團轉..

一直以為自己是那種很酷的女生，
結果沒想到我也是那種會貶低自己希望得到別人的稱讚，
然後明明很在意卻又要裝得一副無所謂的樣子的人。
我都要為當初還肯願意跟我聊天的男生鼓鼓掌了
(這次真的沒有貶抵自己的意思，因為我談話內容真的很扯)

看著聊天的記錄就想起很多不開心的事情…
也差不多是時候該整理整理自己的思緒了。

回憶精彩的地方是在於它曾經發生過，
但並不代表它在未來是有任何存在的意義的。
很多事情發生過就這樣了，沒有反覆回想它的必要。
過去就留在腦袋裡的某個角落，
想起來無傷大雅，但想不起來也不過如此罷了。
 
既然我都決定要做些改變，
刪掉了之後，就可以往前看了… 


以後應該就不會再想起這些了…




________突然有種很輕鬆的感覺。

 

之前在網站上看到這篇文章，
覺得要發篇文章來獎賞一下寫這篇的人XDD
我真的覺得他實在是說得太好了….
雖然我們可能沒有他們說的這麼厲害，但我覺得八九不離十了啦。
身邊追星的朋友其實各個都身懷絕技，畢竟這是一條不歸路阿(遠目)

‎[轉]心理學家說: “不要看輕那些追求韓國明星的孩子,他們的心靈比任何人都還要純潔,他們勇於去愛,他們會想盡辦法去克服一切障礙,語言上的障礙,種族上的障礙,國家上的障礙.他們象徵著和平,他們沒有種族鄙視,他們會跟來自不同地區的有共同興趣的人成為朋友,他們比任何人都還要熱情親切.他們不容易背叛他們喜歡的人,不容易放棄一切堅持.他們的內心比任何人都要堅強,因為在他們愛著韓星的時候,他們經歷到生命中從未遇到的挫折.他們都是感性的孩子,很容易為了一件事感動流淚許久.

 經過調查,他們大部份都懂得感恩.他們的心理跟其他人不同,他們不會容易被愛情沖昏頭,他們不會有做壞事的念頭,而且他們一般選對象的眼光非常高,除了外表,更看重個性,所以他們的結婚率不高,但離婚率也少為極少.他們的記憶力很好,可以輕易記住自己根本就不懂的韓文歌詞,而且配合力也很強. 一般都是開朗的孩子, 不是很自閉的那種.而且他們的毅力很大,可以為了買到一個有關自己喜歡的明星的東西而堅持不懈.

總之,這些孩子的心靈跟其他人的心靈有很大的差別,他們的思想也不容易了解,一般都是要靠那些跟自己有相同興趣的人才能進入到他們的世界＂

這篇文章其實還漏掉了當追星族其他的好處。
像是很多時候當孩子們有個明星轉移他們注意力，
他們就會省掉很多在外面會碰到的不必要的麻煩。
我們連認識的網友都是安全的，
至少我目前很多在台灣的朋友都是認識好多年的網友。
而且追星的孩子金錢觀其實都很好，
畢竟有支出都要有收入阿，所以大家常常為了買周邊而拚命打工。
(當然缺點是錢花得很快拉，但，至少也是大家正正當當拚出來的)
 
所以說啦，人家說學音樂的孩子不會變壞；
我個人是覺得追星的孩子也是^_____^


 

Nov 30th, 2011 1:02am

剛看完＂私が恋愛できない理由＂第七集，
沒有太多的感想，只是很喜歡它結尾的那句話：

＂恋にさまよってしまったら…恋以外の何かに目を向けてみるといい。
見失ったパズルのピースがきっと見つかるから＂
 
＂假如在愛情裡迷失的話…請將目光轉向愛情以外的事物
一定能找到那一塊遺失的拼圖＂



戀愛什麼的，果真還是要靠自己去尋找呢。
不能在原地踏步了，是吧(笑)

Nov 27th, 2011 10:06pm

This is something happened over my ThanksGiving break..I met this girl over the break. She is from China and she is around 19 years old.

So we talked about how people these days cheat so much. It seems like many people don’t take their relationship seriously enough. At least that is how I think. But I was surprised by how she responds to such thing. 

Basically, she believes that she is going to end up marrying the first guy she dates. She is currently in a relationship with this guy that she met over the internet. They have dated for a year but have not seen each other in person. (I personally don’t think this is a proper relationship). Anyways, she believes that when you love someone, you should never get tired or annoyed by that person. You should always keep faithful and etc…She thinks that once you fall in love with someone, then that feeling will last FOREVER. I feel like eternity is what she is looking for.

I am not saying that she is wrong. It is just that people don’t really think that way anymore. Besides, there are a lot more things that can affect a relationship. I just don’t think the word “LOVE” can solve all the difficulties in a relationship. And I simply don’t believe forever/eternity in a relationship. 

Then we talked about virginity. YES, we did. So she said that she wants her first time partner(?!) to be a virgin as well.  She said she can’t stand having sex with someone who already had the experiences. This is fine with me because I know a lot of people also think this way. BUT, YOU ARE ALMOST 20..Let’s assume that she is not going to have sex any sooner (because I just don’t think that will happen any time sooner for her). Unless she is planning to find a 15 year old to have sex with in the future, or else it is really difficult to find a guy who is also a virgin around 20 these days. This is the real world, girl.

Okay, these don’t really bother me that much. But then I mentioned how this is so not fair for women to give up their work or their dream for their husband and family. I pointed out that many women are forced to quit their jobs in order to move to different countries for their husbands’ jobs. I just don’t think it is fair, and I think both husband and wife need to sacrifice something to make their relationship work. 

I think women should not always be the ones who do everything to satisfy their husbands. And she was like…”But I think these women are so selfish since they only consider about themselves”. = =… Selfish? I didn’t know what to say at that time because I never thought I would hear something like this from a 19-year-old girl. I tried to ask her that why are women always the ones who need to give up, not men? And she told me that because men are more likely to be “successful” in whatever they are doing, and women are not. Yup, end of discussion. 

Sigh**I don’t even know what to say about her. She is so naive but STUPID at the same time..I wonder is there something wrong about our society? WHY ON THE EARTH DO SOME PEOPLE STILL THINK SO NARROW MINDED??????

GOD bless her.

Naive?? I think she is just stupid.